Pregnancy is the easy part

If you’re pregnant, I’m sorry but pregnancy is like the pre-funk to the party. And by party I mean eyes that look like you’ve never slept a day in your life. I’m talking fatigue like you’ve never experienced. If you’re one of those people who brags about how busy your day is and how you have no time, you know nothing until you become a parent.

If you have a baby that sleeps through the night, keep your mouth shut. You will never know the misery that comes from a baby that has FOMO every night.

Does is sound like I am a withered up old hag? I am.

I have an 8 month old who loves to party all night long. I should’ve known when he kept me up for hours from midnight to 3am when he was in my belly, kicking non-stop and legit starring in his own gymnastics routine.

5 out of 7 days, my husband and I look at each other and can’t get off of the couch. We live in a small town where food is not delivered. So, one of us offers to get something when we don’t have the energy to make actual food. And the other person high fives and says, “You got this.”

Sleep deprivation is real.

But where is the village? You know the saying, “it takes a village to raise a child?” I keep wondering when they’ll knock on my door and offer to send us to a sleep clinic or rehab.

Not every day is this bad, but after a Mom’s getaway to come home to a husband with food poisoning and a baby who is starting to experience separation anxiety, the reality is harsh.

I will probably look at this and laugh one day. Today, I wonder about all the other Moms out there who are trying to run a business and take care of their baby and how they do it or at least how they pretend to do it.

I love looking at perfectly photographed pregnant moms to be. I giggle. The perfectly decorated baby room and their hair and makeup done professionally. It’s funny because I was just like that (except for the hair and makeup part – I’ve never been like that), but the decorated, organized room where clothes were hung up and everything was ‘in its place.’

Now, I write and wonder if I’m making sense. Wondering if I’m alone, feeling this way. I keep waiting for things to get easier. Waiting for life to settle down. It’s not happening.

Some are born to be mothers. Like my Mama. She is the most maternal selfless human being. She offers me a glass of water at my own house. 

I want to end this post with, “But it’s the greatest thing ever!” because I feel like people want me to say that. But I’m going to be a rebel. Motherhood is hard. Yes, when he smiles I am a happy girl. But when he cries/whines, I feel like Cruella Deville.

 

My experience + healthy tips during pregnancy

This is how it all started.  You see this foxy guy to my right? That would be my soon to be, baby daddy aka husband.

We met at a grocery store, he took my number, called that night and it’s been heaven ever since.  Okay, 75% heaven and 25% WTF (he would whole heartedly agree).

We met in 2012, were engaged in December 2014, married in September 2015, moved from Seattle to Gig Harbor December 2015 and pregnant in May 2016.  Our baby boy is due January 2017.

He’s an adrenaline junkie and I’m a go with the flower.

We talked about traveling, me building my business and possibly having babies within a year or two.  Well as they say, “Life happens when you’re busy making plans.”  Ain’t that the truth!

This is what I looked like when I found out I was pregnant in May of this year.  I had no idea HOW much my body, hair, skin and emotions would change over the next several months.  Let me tell you this…pregnancy is not for the weak.  You can’t pretend you aren’t pregnant, there’s a little foot or knee reminding you he is inside and will not be ignored.

I started at 125 pounds, teaching yoga + barre and walking every day!  But the fatigue in the first trimester was a beast.

Now, I’m at 158.  A number I never imagined to see on the scale.  A number I don’t really care about (I mean, I’m growing a freaking human), but think it’s hilarious as the number climbs.  Alex, my hub, has also gained some weight.  But he’s the kind of husband who gains 17 pounds of MUSCLE! So while he flexes and flaunts his biceps and abs, I stare at my belly and giggle while eating another veggie chip. And when he goes for his fourth meal around 9/10pm, I happily join him.

But let’s back it up a little.  Here are the weird things that have happened so far…

  • Vertigo went away. This was AWESOME! I have hormone induced vertigo, so whenever I had my period, I’d feel trapped in a salad spinner. I rarely have it now, unless I don’t sleep because the karate kid has decided to host a championship between him and my intestines.
  • Bloody nose 3 times – once while driving with no kleenex in the car…it was not pretty.
  • Diagnosed with pregnancy rhinitis
  • Candida overgrowth – took western meds, didn’t get rid of it, now on heavy duty probiotics, no sugar/caffeine and daily ACV (apple cider vinegar).
  • Dry/Itchy scalp – my hairdresser noticed and said this is common with hormonal changes due to pregnancy. Not cool Hansel.

Seriously though, I’ve been really freaking lucky!! No morning sickness, just some intense nausea that went away in the first trimester.

Food aversions:

  • Eggs (cannot handle the smell)
  • Meat (at least in the second and third trimester) at the beginning, you could’ve called me Sausage Sally.
  • Green beans

Food cravings:

  • Strawberries
  • Ginger
  • Vegan protein pancakes
  • Gluten free Bagels
  • Pizza
  • So Delicious Mint Chocolate “ice cream”
  • Chocolate
  • Broccoli
  • Apples
  • Lemons
  • Peppermint
  • Bananas
  • Acai bowls
  • Waffles

Prenatal supplements:

Love this brand Rainbow Light. I first bought Nature Made prenatals from Costco and it increased my nausea and made me feel hungover in the morning.  These prenatal vitamins are awesome and don’t make you feel terrible!

I bought these because I was advised to get extra Vitamin D and they taste really good. I take one a day and they have 1 gram of sugar per gummy.

The probiotic supplement I was advised to take to reduce/eliminate candida overgrowth and promote good gut bacteria.  It was either this or eating yogurt and yogurt makes me gag, so….

I started using this for my dry scalp and LOVE IT!  It feels so good on my head and smells divine!  It’s also safe to use while pregnant. Do not use regular anti-dandruff shampoo/conditioner, not safe for you or baby during pregnancy.

This third trimester tea from Earth Mama Angel Baby tastes delicious and is supposed to get your body ready for labor.  I love this brand!!

Homemade deodorant – wanted to be super safe during pregnancy, no extra metals/toxins leaking into my lymphatic system…

  • 2 tbsp baking soda
  • 2 tbsp cornstarch
  • 3 tbsp coconut oil
  • 5 drops peppermint essential oil.

Store in glass mason jar, apply with two finger tips.

We bought a squatty potty – these are supposed to be amazing for getting your body in the right position for labor and helps with digestion. I loved it and highly recommend!

Prenatal self-care:

  • Stopped teaching yoga at 32 weeks

  • Signed up for a 6 week fitness challenge in week 30, only to quit 3 weeks later due to medical advice…”What do you mean I’m supposed to be able to breathe?”

  • Monthly prenatal massages

  • Monthly pedicures

  • Sleeping longer and without an alarm clock

  • Drinking a ton of water + herbal tea

  • 2-3 walks per week with my dude

  • Allowing myself to say, “raincheck” when exhausted and wanting to relax

  • Bubble bath with lavender essential oil

  • Peppermint wafting through diffuser

Hope this helps if you’re pregnant or thinking about it!  I really do think the more natural approach to everything during pregnancy helped!  And listening to your body, giving into cravings (with moderation) and taking extra time and space for you to emotionally prepare to meet your baby.  Now we wait to meet this little guy.

Signing Off at 37 Weeks!!!

Love,

Mama to be