So I’m getting ready to create the next Break Free Mastermind training and the lesson is about stress and overwhelm.
As a Certified Happiness Life Coach, I’ve learned a thing or two about the brain, habits and wires that are created from experiences and how to change pathways.
Overreacting is your body’s response to the things going on in your life or in your mind that you feel are stressful. We have wires that connect to stress. Experiences connect us to joy or stress wires. The more stress you have, different things build on each other and it creates chronic stress effect.
Stress builds up. The more stress we have in our lives, the closer we get to the edge of our emotional cliff. One small thing happens – huge reaction (close to cliff). Find a way to reduce the stress. Stress is caused because of patterns and wires in our brain that connect to experiences in our life to feeling bad. Rewire stress to bring more joy.
3 ways to experience joy, have less stress and to literally rewire your brain
1. Stress Avoidance:
- Negative coping strategies: substance abuse, love/sex/shopping addiction, ocd social media checks – we avoid things we should be doing and this causes more stress.
- Positive: people, actions, behaviors, things, places that stress me out. I’m aware of them and plan my life accordingly to not come in contact with those things and avoid those things, I reduce stress. #boundaries #people #situations
- Consciously choose a way to give yourself a productive break: do something you love, go for a walk, monitor your own thoughts, you have the power to choose.
2. Give yourself a joy boost:
- Creating more pathways of joy, if you keep using these, your brain creates a sheath around it and it gets strong. More experiences of joy – you’ll create very strong connections of joy.
- Stress starts to weaken.
Pay attention to your breath + hold your body at one – stand up straight, head up, shoulders back, hands open, smiling (mountain pose) tells your brain you’re supposed to feel good+ think about something that brings pleasure to you: thinking about something you love like walking through a field of flowers
Create 5 of your own joy boosts.
3. Retrain the pathway.
Choose something that triggers a bad memory. Imagine the thing. Allow it to bring up the negative association. Pick something that you’re going to replace it with, must be something that’s going to bring you joy.
Imagine the trigger —> switch to think about the joyful thing —> do it 10 times every day for several days —> you’re associating this bad memory with the joyful thing
There you have it, the quickest way to stop overreacting, plus it doesn’t cost a thing, just your mindfulness.
If you’re ready to reduce the overwhelm, break free of emotional roadblocks and start living your most desired life, apply here.