THE UNBREAKABLE BOND: The Break Free Retreat

How would you feel if you walked into a weekend where you knew no one? Fearful? Anxious? Excited?

4 days ago I led my FOURTH sold out retreat with women from all over the nation.

A magical thing took place…something I’ve been dreaming of, hoping for and intentionally creating since I started leading retreats: these women became sisters. Soul mates. 

Each beautiful soul from a completely different background, all trying to overcome obstacles that have kept them from living out their dreams.

I wish I took a picture of each woman as they entered the lodge on day one. Some were scared, anxious, fearful and trepidatious about what was to come.

Their vices taken away: alcohol, mind numbing TV and a chip basket to talk around.

They had to be themselves. Almost no one knew one another when they booked the retreat. I think only two of them knew each other before the retreat.

But on day three, when they left through those doors…WOW! Glowing faces, laughter, big squeezing hugs and tears in their eyes as they departed.

Pictures by: Nicole Carter

This was the most life changing moment when I read them their answers to this question:

What do you want to BREAK FREE from?

My character defect of not putting myself first – I need to be my number ONE priority in my life right now.

The need to people please. 

The need for acceptance from others.

How to manage stresses in life and how to not get stuck in ruts.

Getting out of comfort zone.

Depression and poor self-care.

I have a lot of anxiety, all of the time.

I am constantly second guessing myself, especially since becoming a mother.

I tend to be obsessive about how I present myself to others. I’d love to just let go of the self-limiting belief that I need the approvals of others in order to be happy. Also, my vision of success and how much stress that puts on me.

I want to break free from being stuck, unfulfilled and just not genuinely happy in my life. I want to find my greater purpose in life, pursue it, reach great fulfillment and pure happiness.

More confidence in the workplace!

I want to break free from the anger I have that won’t allow me to make deeper connections.

Self-doubt & Fear

My bad habits and lack of confidence. I have blocks around money and building MY business.

I focus a lot on my jobs, but I am not being compensated for my worth. I struggle financially and with keeping my own steady habits for wellness.

I want to break free from myself in a way.

Fear – my own insecurities (known and unknown/subconscious).

I want to BREAK FREE from the old me.  The quiet, second guessing, let someone else go first me.  I want to become the speak up first, stand up for herself and her ideas me, who stands confident in her experiences and trusts herself and respects herself and takes herself seriously – so much so that she is her own #1 supporter, and people around her can’t help but join in as well!

Every single day, every workshop, every meal was on purpose.

We ate anti – inflammatory foods so our minds would be clear.

We sweat in barre and dance class so we’d feel refreshed and energetic.

We had the Break Free Workshop to release trapped trauma.

We broke free in the Improv Workshop to surprise ourselves with how good it feels to laugh and trust our wildly spot on instinct.

The retreat was the beginning, the kick off to a much larger, more in – depth program starting in January 2019.

The 6 Month Break Free Program.

The Break Free Retreat is over, but the transformations are just beginning.

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Why I named my podcast, “In My Sweats”

 

Too excited to read and want to go listen? Head to iTunes or go here: https://inmysweats.podbean.com/

 

So, you might be wondering why I named my podcast, “In My Sweats.”

 

I worked with my podcast coach on the title and found myself trying to be someone I wasn’t. My initial idea was to name it FIERCE. But it felt too domineering for my style and WAY TOO in your face.

 

Then I wanted to name it, NO SMALL TALK. But felt like that was weird and sad.

 

For a little while I liked, “I CAN’T FAKE LAUGH,” which is true, but what the hell does that show offer? Nothing. I felt like I could hear a needle drop.

 

They were all trying too hard to be clever and I could see right through my own bullshit. When I looked deep within and cleared away all the crap, I imagined myself in my basement working in my sweats.

 

I like people to feel comfortable.

 

I have 5,000+ pairs of sweats (okay, more like 10), but still…

 

I wanted to interview people who didn’t have to get ready before we talk, because ya, I might be interviewing someone, but really we’re just having a conversation about life.

 

This is my first creative leap for literally THE HELL OF IT. There I said it. This podcast’s only intention was to invite people to feel at home while they listen. Maybe nod your head or exclaim, “ME TOO,” while driving. I wanted to talk to Mama’s who didn’t have the picture perfect birth and took the road less traveled. I wanted to talk to real people who share the good, the bad and the wtf.

 

I really want you to listen and see if you can feel at home with us, so if you wouldn’t mind…hit that subscribe button and if you feel it deserves 5 stars, LAY IT ON ME.

 

Make sure you’re in your sweats while listening: https://inmysweats.podbean.com/

When you consume sugar, you live a rollercoaster life

I know…

Blanket statement, right?

From my experience, both personally + professionally, it’s true. When you consume sugar, you’re more likely to be in rollercoaster relationships and emotions.

What would happen if you removed sugar from your life?

  • Imagine feeling satiated the whole day, so you’re not reaching for sugar when it’s 3pm and sugary treats don’t even sound good anymore.
  • Imagine being in a romantic relationship that is stable and doesn’t have extreme highs and lows.
  • Imagine waking up feeling rested, knowing your body is satiated on a nutrient level.

This is what happens when you stop eating candy, cookies, sugary beverages, sugary salad dressings, sugar hides in everything!

Listen, I didn’t eat a piece of fruit for 7 years because I was so scared to eat SUGAR. In 2009, I returned home from spending 8 months in SE Asia where I contracted parasites.

I stopped eating sugar cold turkey.

Some of my private clients have had parasites, SIBO, Leaky Gut, IBS, etc. but have not eliminated sugar. This is where I suggest starting: I want you to spend 14 days without sugar.

Some clients have NEVER had gut issues or food allergies, but experience headaches, bloating and fatigue – these women also feel unfulfilled in their romantic relationships, the ups and the downs.

I was someone who LOVED sugar…nothing was rich or sweet enough. That is definitely not the case anymore.

I was also addicted to relationships that were explosive and passion – filled.

While crushing the sugar, I also had out of control ADD – I went from a 2.5 GPA to a 4.0 when I started ADD meds.

I wanted off after 4 years of taking, so I got off but didn’t know how to holistically help my symptoms, removing sugar was MASSIVELY healing.

So, if you need any other reason to say ta ta to sugar, read more here.