most people stop right before they hit it big

You hear it all the time, right?

Like Chrissy Metz, from This Is Us. She had 70 cents left in her bank account when she auditioned for her starring role and SHE GOT THE JOB!

Most people hit it big years and years after they put in the work, the time, the sacrifice.

I don’t like reading about the one year wonders…”In the first 90 days of my business, I hit $1 million dollars.” It’s so discouraging and I’d bet my right foot it’s not true.

As I was planning out the next 90 days of my biz, I started thinking about a time in college when I was going to teach a dance class.

I was so scared.

I took this Cardio Groove dance class twice a week for almost two years before the instructor suggested I start teaching it.

First of all, she was like an expert dancer in my eyes, so the fact that she thought I could fill her shoes left my jaw dropped to the floor.

I didn’t think twice about accepting. HELL YA. I got to work.

I started practicing and teaching my friends, which ended in hysterical laughter because how the hell do you 8 – count?

My background was in gymnastics and cheer and it always took me three times as long to learn dances with counts, than 90% of the team.

But I accepted the challenge….kind of…

The day before my audition, I went out (I was in college).

Not the smartest thing to do.

I drank too much and ended up breaking my ankle and foot.

Easy excuse – no audition.

I think the broken foot thing happened because of fear.

I was so freakin’ scared about auditioning and subconsciously I was trying to get out of it, so I ended up “getting out of it.”

Definitely would’ve been easier to say, I’m not ready. But that’s not my style, so instead I had to break my foot.

I’ll never know what could’ve happened had I not gone out, had I practiced until I was confident I could do it, had I told her I needed more time or more guidance to teach the class while counting, etc. etc. etc.

Here’s what I do know…

We never know how anything is going to turn out unless we do it.

Unless we take off the life jacket and fuckin’ sink or swim.

Little secret…

No one sinks.

We might tread water or go in a little too deep, but we breast stroke to the other side. Sure, with some panting and wheezing but WE MAKE IT.

Tenacity.
Persistence.
Drive.
Passion.
Integrity.
Commitment.
Purpose.


If you’re reading this, You possess those qualities, J?

YES YOU DO!

We never really know, do we J? Unless we try.

So stop wasting your damn time and shatter your doubts in the Break Free Mastermind and learn how to shine on the Activate Your Gifts Retreat.

There is a place where you fit in. TRUST. Don’t do the ‘maybe’ thing, do the “I WAS READY YESTERDAY AND I’M JUST GOING TO DO IT.”

Apply here to book your breakthrough session with me.

I’ll be here, J. I see your bright ass future and you talkin’ about every great thing that happened to you in year 2019. Do you?
“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.” – Jordan Belfort

What it’s like being a successful female biz owner with diagnosed ADD + ADHD

Ladies…

It is no easy task, to stay on task. RIGHT!?

I didn’t know how much harder and yet easier things would get after having a kid.

On one hand, your schedule is not your own. You are a slave to your house during nap time and your previous life of just leaving on a whim, disappears.

On the other hand, you learn how to get 1,200 things done in less than that two hour nap time.

I’m actually writing during his nap time right now and I have a list of like 10 tasks I need to finish for my business, but I thrive under pressure and they don’t need to be done for four days.

Let me share with you the task list of a successful biz owner with no team (yet).

  • Creating PowerPoints for Break Free Mastermind training.
  • Writing a book
  • Finishing a product so my graphic designer can start creating the look
  • paying Costco, Amazon and regular credit card
  • Enrolling early birds into the Activate your Gifts Retreat (the planning process hasn’t even begun yet and we’re less than 3 months away)
  • Sending session notes to private clients
  • Creating a 5 day challenge with free guides and an opt in page
  • Sending welcome letters to retreaters
  • Trying to figure out what I can automate
  • Social media for my second Instagram account “In My Sweats” named after my podcast
  • Recording a new podcast

I told my Fearful to Fit Fam that I’d be taking them on the journey with me. I wanted to show more behind the scenes of the unglam life of owning a biz and really doing 20% coaching and 80% biz.

In the last three years I went from $1,000 – $3,000 per month and now I’m averaging over $14,000 per month.

This is why I’m letting you in on the not so pretty. The 12-14 hour work days and why I wouldn’t want to do anything else, but this.

So, what’s it like owning a biz with two learning disabilities?

I use them to fire me up.

Having ADD and ADHD means I can do A LOT at one time. Like a scatter brained mongoose on the loose. She’s crossing her t’s and dotting her i’s but it’s more of a round about way then the rest of them.

I finish everything I start.

That wasn’t the case a few years ago. It’s a muscle I’ve had to grow and it pays off immensely.

I’m also more committed to plans than I ever have been.

Another muscle.

I’m a deep feeler, like so many of us ADD women.

And when I don’t feel my peppiest, I don’t want to be around people.

If I’m already zapped, I don’t want to be more zapped.

BUT if I constantly go with my feelings, I’d never leave the house!

So, I’m pretty good now…***instantly flashed to my toddler not sleeping and me canceling all my plans.***

Here are the best ways I know how to cope with a very active, excited mind:

Write it down. Whatever it is. Write that shit down. An idea? A grocery item? A bill you have to pay?

Say it out loud. Tell someone your idea and see how they respond. Are they like, “OOOooooooooo” or “oh?”

Walk outside or on the treadmill. THIS IS KEY to moving stuck energy around. I do jumping jacks and jump up and down before I give a master class to hype myself up.

Take deep breaths before doing a Facebook Live. I do this to calm my nerves. Some days I don’t want to be seen, I want to hide in my house under the comfiest blanket ever, but I don’t. Wanting vs. doing = two very different things

Turn the music on. When you feel stuck or stagnant – pump that shit up and start a family dance party or even party of one.

I took meds for ADD for four years and it royally screwed me up. I cut out sugar, gluten and dairy a long time ago and it helped immensely. I drink green juices and smoothies for energy and clearing the foggy head. I love basil and herbs and use them to heighten the taste of food – and they are epstein barr killers (I have it) so I use natural herbs to kill the pathogens.

I stay away from caffeine. It makes me panicky and sweaty.

I drink tons of water.

But these things don’t work for everybody. I developed a blueprint for my diagnosis and help other female biz owners do the same with their diagnosis.

Schedule your breakthrough call, so you can stop guessing your protocol. Talk to an expert. Someone who’s been in your shoes and knows how to get you from point A to point B without 15 detours.

I USED TO EQUATE WORTH WITH WEIGHT

I know exactly when it started…

I was in 6th grade when my worth was stripped away. It was the first time someone made me feel bad about how much I weighed. Before that point I didn’t know that the scale dictated how I was supposed to feel about myself.

From that point on until my twenties, I battled HARD with confidence and weight.

I weighed myself before and after hot yoga.

I counted calories.

I skipped meals until I was so hungry that I binged.

I remember my daily intake…

1 venti chai tea
half peanut butter power bar

bike at level 10 for 40 minutes

lunch: other half power bar

post bikram yoga: spinach salad with veggie patty

and that was it…

my pants fell off.

my skin was bad.

I was finally skinny, but miserable.

I “arrived” and was the same person.

but that all changed when I stopped dieting. Funny, isn’t it?

The moment I realized that people would still want me around if I was 5 pounds up, some boyfriends even preferred me with more meat on my bones, it was like a breath of fresh air.

I was knocked down a few more times by insecure men, didn’t know it then, but years of reflection gave me that level of knowing.

I turned it all around and I’m teaching you how in the 6 Month Break Free Mastermind.

You have so many gifts and unique talents that have nothing to do with what you look like, the title you hold or how much money you make.

You are worth more than you can possibly imagine.

I’m the mentor that shows you gifts you’ve kept hidden for decades without even realizing it.

I’ll show you how I went from 0 clients to a waitlist.

How I’ve maintained a 25 pound weight loss for 7 years.

How I continually hit 5 figure months.

I’m laying out all the cards because that’s my purpose.

I want success and freedom for you and I know how you can have it.

If you want success and freedom for you too and can’t wait another second, apply today: http://www.fearfultofit.com/booknow/